Recruiting Tip of the Week #4 - Managing Expectations as a Family

Brett Allen
Dec 5, 2025
1 min read

Managing Expectations as a Family

REP Insight

Recruiting is emotional. Every family wants the best for their athlete, but the process works best when expectations match reality. At REP, we see the most success when families stay aligned, patient, and focused on fit—not hype.

What Athletes Need to Know

You can’t compare your journey to anyone else's. Different bodies, different timelines, different opportunities. What matters is steady progress, honest evaluation, and consistency.

Parents play a huge role in a recruit’s confidence and mindset. When the whole family understands the process, the athlete thrives.

Why This Matters for Recruiting

When expectations match reality:

Athletes avoid unnecessary stress
Families invest time and money more wisely
Communication stays positive and aligned
Coaches feel less pressure and more trust
The athlete’s development stays the focus

When expectations are unrealistic, frustration follows—every time.

REP Recommended Action Steps

Have an open conversation about realistic recruiting levels.
Talk about what matters most: fit, development, culture, education.
Avoid comparing offers or timelines with teammates.
Celebrate small wins—progress takes time.

Final Word From REP

Recruiting is not a race—it's a placement process. The goal isn’t the biggest logo. The goal is the right opportunity. Families who stay grounded and aligned give their athlete the best chance to succeed.